Surprise post!

Hi again!

What?? Two posts in one week? Yes!

I'm going to do something a little different in this post though. 

I have been asked so many times, especially in the last few days...

'How does your husband feel about you still loving your first husband?' 

'How does he cope with all the emotions?'

'How does he feel about you talking about it so much?'

'Doesn't it bother him or make him jealous?' 

'He would have to be a special guy' (On this I can attest. He is :))

Well today he is going to answer those questions himself and tell you his story of all of this.

These are his words not mine. I'm hoping after this you will all have a better understanding of him and our relationship.

Hi. This is Tom. So I am being FORCED to write on the blog post...Haha just kidding!!!! OK, so anyway, Rhena has told me that a lot of people ask her all these questions. So I will answer these questions as best as I can.

So how do I feel about her loving another guy? Well, I can understand how she feels that way because I too lost someone very special in my life and I know that those feelings do not just go away. Plus, its not like she can leave me to be with him...I know that she loves me. She married me. She said the same vows that I said. We have a beautiful child together. 

How do I cope with the emotions? Well, it is my duty as her husband to be with her at all times no matter what, so that's what I do. I need to comfort her and be there for her when she needs me. Plus, I love her more than anything else in the world and I HATE to see her sad or upset. 

About her talking about it. I think its healthy to talk about those moments because I want her to remember those times and cherish them. I would never want her to forget that time in her life. Again, i now how important it is to cherish memories, because you never know what the future holds.

Jealousy......no I do not get jealous when she talks about him or that time in her life. I wasn't even in the picture so why should I get jealous. I can't control her memories or change the past, so it makes no sense to get jealous over something like that. Plus it wouldn't be fair to her to make that situation about me when it clearly has nothing to do with me. The only thing that bothers me is how his family treats her now. if I could drop a bomb on them all and get away with it I would. They infuriate me with how they treat her.

Final question. Yes, I am special. I'm totally awesome!

So there you have it. He is pretty awesome :)

As I have said in the past I know Matt and God chose Tom special just for me. How everything played out it is quite evident. 

Again I want to say these were his words not mine!

Here we are...two imperfect people figuring out this thing called LIFE!